Unmarried Man Without Kids Faces Struggle with Childlessness Desire
Going Against the Grain: Childless, Single, and Male - Navigating the Desire for Parenthood
By: John Doe
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In a world where children are often seen as a result of mutual love and commitment, what happens when a man longs for fatherhood, but finds himself alone? This question is increasingly becoming relevant as more men find themselves in this predicament.
According to psychologist Dr. Tewes Wischmann, mixed feelings abound about this topic. "Women still seem to bear the responsibility for the desire for children, family planning, and child-rearing," he explained in an interview with ntv.de. This perception stems from society's traditional view of child-rearing, coupled with men's reluctance to discuss their unfulfilled desire for children.
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A study by the Federal Ministry of Family, Senior Citizens, Women and Youth revealed that the number of men unwillingly childless has significantly increased between 2013 and 2020. Almost a third of the men surveyed confirmed they were unwillingly childless - a rise of eight percentage points since 2013. The number for women has only increased by about six percentage points.
Digging deeper "Parenting Options for Single Men" - An In-depth Discussion
For single men yearning for children, the road to parenthood can be fraught with challenges. "In most cases, a woman is not just a prerequisite for a man with an unfulfilled desire for children to have a child, but partnership comes before and above parenthood," the study by the Bmfsfj states. This means that singles with a desire for children must find ways to express their desires without scaring off potential partners.
Swiss psychotherapist Dr. Ursina Donatsch advises that the desire for children should not be the only criteria for choosing a partner. In a conversation with ntv.de, she explained that love, joy, and friendship are also important aspects of relationships. When getting to know someone, it's essential to express one's desire for children in a way that emphasizes authenticity without seeming too pushy or exclusive.
A Man's Journey - Tim F.'s Story
Taking a Chance Finding a partner who shares the same desire for children can be a challenge, as Tim F. from NRW discovered. "I would only date women who have a clear desire for children," he revealed in an interview. He even considered alternative parenting models, such as co-parenting, when his ex-girlfriend didn't want children of her own. "I approached a known woman as a potential mother through sperm donation, but it didn't work out," he explained.
Exploring the Options - Beyond the Usual Despite the challenges, Tim F. is not ready to give up on his dream of fatherhood. "If my desire for children isn't fulfilled within a partnership in the next few years, I would consider co-parenting again," he said. The man in his mid-thirties is not unique in his struggle, as the societal view on single men desiring children needs to change.
Breaking the Taboo - A Call for Change Dr. Tewes Wischmann believes that it's high time to break the taboo surrounding single men's desire for children. "Society needs to become more open and empathetic, so that men can discuss their feelings about their unfulfilled desire for children without fear of judgment," he said. Role models like former football coach Jogi Loew, who openly talked about his unfulfilled desire for children, can pave the way for more open discussions, he added.
Sources:- ntv.de- Embryo Protection Act, Germany (available online)- Guidelines for Surrogacy in Georgia (available online)- Online Resource Guide for Surrogacy in the United States (available online)
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- In the article, it is noted that employment policies and community policies should be reconsidered to accommodate men who wish to become fathers but find themselves alone, as the desire for fatherhood is not limited to those in traditional family structures.
- As the discussion about single men's desire for children continues, it is crucial to consider the impact on their mental health and wellness, as feelings of loneliness and isolation can arise from societal stigmas around unconventional family structures.
- To navigate the desire for parenthood while maintaining a healthy lifestyle and relationships, it is advised that men approach the topic of wanting children with authenticity, but also balance it with the importance of love, companionship, and all aspects of relationships.
- To ensure a supportive environment for all families, a shift in societal attitudes towards relationships and family dynamics is necessary, embracing the diversity of modern family structures and making it easier for single men who wish to become fathers to do so, while maintaining the importance of self-care and mental health.
