Eve* indulges in life's delights
Rewritten Article
Swinging open the curtains on bedroom secrets, La Presse delves into the sultry realm of intimacy, steering clear of statistics and societal norms. Today's testament comes from Eve*, a vivacious woman in her mid-forties.
In Silvia Galipeau's online sphere, Eve* embraces her sexuality wholeheartedly. From a passionate kiss to the act itself, she's all about experiencing pleasure and respect, craving more, again and again.
"If my story piques your interest, that of a balanced and satisfied woman with a fierce libido and a knack for pleasing in bed (I've had quite the roaming eye...), I'd be thrilled to swap stories with you," she wrote to us during the wintery months. She resonated with Paul's* tale, who frankly expressed sex as "overrated."
"Goodness me, laughs the lively forty-something, donning her large glasses, seated at a chic café in the north crown, on a recent frosty morning. Sex is a pleasure in life!"
Eve's adventurous spirit was sown from childhood memories of playing doctor with friends and "feeling things," as she put it. With her first boyfriend in CEGEP, she also recalls a long stretch of lovemaking - "we took our time!" - filled with sheer pleasure and sensuality. "And I loved it!" she confesses. "We did everything, except that one thing!"
It's worth noting that conversation about the subject was never taboo in Eve's household. "When I had my first sexual relationship, my mother asked me if I had climaxed!" And then? Negative, she admits, chuckling. Eve was 18, in a new relationship, and it "was nice," she qualifies, but not particularly passionate.
In her twenties, she met the father of her child, a relationship that marked a significant dip in her journey towards sexual satisfaction. "Let's just say it wasn't satisfying," she admits, wincing. "Climax? That was as rare as Christmas!" The rest of the time? "I faked it..."
Yet, Eve was in love, and love has its reasons, as we know. "I loved him, I admired him." Even in bed, it was clear that "it wasn't working."
When she finally left him after ten years, Eve decided it was time to make amends. "I want to be the woman I want to be," she declared. How? By getting her groove back. And she sure did, having "more than enough" of it.
Take the G-spot, for instance. "Do you know it? Near the cervix, she explains. Or the P-spot? Same deal, but stimulated through anal sex! It requires a certain finesse, let's just say, you have to dive right in!" But it results in orgasms that last close to thirty seconds! Amazing "waves," she marvels, "I craved more!"
These discoveries were always made with respect, open communication, and an exchange of desires: "Do you like this? What changes do you want?" paraphrases our interviewee, referencing a particularly attentive lover who's marked her. "He was listening! And I learned!" Meaning: she then passed on her newfound knowledge to future lovers. And "he took his time! He built desire!" she also took care to specify.
In her youth, Eve was quite the adventurer. She Initiated most of these adventures: at parties, on trips, or even spontaneously through unexpected encounters. "Hey, I found you cute, let's grab a drink?"
"Why, you might ask? 'I find my worth in the eyes of another,' she analyzes. The greater the challenge, the more I feel valued..."
However, these encounters (and she's had quite a few) took their toll. In her late thirties, after many sexual adventures (including a "threesome," which she found "hyperstimulating"), Eve yearned for something serious. "I want something real, I'm ready to commit." No more casual flings, she craved a lasting relationship.
She found it, but it unfortunately proved to be just as toxic as it was passionate. In bed? "Sexually incredible, we always wanted more, it was always good." Outside of bed, it was a different story. "We just argued all the time..."
As they say, sex isn't everything...
Eve, mid-forties
When she separated again, after a few difficult years, Eve was completely drained. "I don't want anything to do with it anymore..." She had a few more encounters, but always hesitantly (why she did this, we may never know), before bouncing back, nearing forty.
Then, a few months ago, Eve had another chance encounter. A real one, not virtual, "old school," like in the good old days, a time she clearly knows how to navigate. And it clicked. "It's something I haven't felt in a long time. I was attracted!" The affair was "extraordinary," she beamed, in and out of the bedroom. Too bad the guy had other issues to deal with, and it didn't last. "But it gave me hope! Love and sex can coexist in a healthy way," she says, smiling genuinely.
In the meantime, she misses him. No, Eve is in withdrawal. "Physically. Horrible. I wake up at night because I want him!"
But she doesn't dwell on her misfortune. Quite the opposite. "I've been lucky enough to meet men who've shown me extraordinary things," she continues. "And I think I love sex because I've had extraordinary lovers."
But it's up to us to welcome them, she suggests. "If no one shows you, how can you know? [...] You have to accept that you don't know everything, and let men show you [certain things]!"
And how to spot these lovers worth the detour, according to her? "They're attentive, they have nothing to prove. They're there for one reason: to create a connection." And finally, a last thought: "No extraordinary lover was about performance. Those are the worst," she concludes, laughing.
Fictitious names, to protect their anonymity
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- Eve*, an individual embracing her sexuality wholeheartedly, analyzes her experiences and shares her knack for pleasing in bed, encouraging others to swap stories.
- Paul*, whose frank views contrast with Eve's, expresses sex as "overrated," causing Eve to express her contrasting perspective about the pleasure and importance of sexuality in life.
- In her youth, Eve's quest for sexual satisfaction led her to explore various aspects of her libido, such as the G-spot and P-spot, through experimental encounters and open communication with partners.
- Based on her experiences, Eve is convinced that extraordinary lovers are characterized by their attentiveness, lack of need to prove themselves, and focus on creating a meaningful connection, rather than focusing on performance.
- The science of health and wellness, sexual health, and relationships can significantly benefit from Eve's insights into sexuality, love, and lifestyle, providing advice for those seeking passionate and fulfilling relationships.
- Fashion, beauty, and dating industries may also find value in Eve's insights, as they strive to create products and experiences that cater to the modern individual's desire for expressing, growing, and honoring their libido within a healthy and respectful context.
